Today I am a thirteen year veteran in the game and art of love.
Thirteen years.
That is almost half my life. next year.
Thirteen years of experimenting, learning, growing, trusting, playing, giving, receiving, honing, trying, practicing and discovering. It has been a wildly fun and fulfilling thirteen years at play.
There is always alot of talk about girls having sex too young and jaws drop when I tell people that i was 14 when I started. Scandal! I must not have been emotionally mature! I must not have been ready! It was wayyyy too young! Holy Moley!
but human beings, especially those who've just gone through puberty, are designed to want to fuck. To play. To learn. To screw around. To hook up. They've got a biological imperative.
Sure, most 14 year olds might be emotional morons, and they might not have a whole ton of common sense either, and self-control? How can anyone really hope to have self control with all those raging hormones couring through their little systems?
It will happen. It has been happening since their were people. It will always happen. I swear, i think the only thing that keeps many teens from starting at 14 is the built-in awkwardness that comes with adolescence. They feel like idiots half the time and are UBER self-conscious. So many of them have to grow up a few years, come into themselves a little, before they muster up the courage to make a foray into partner sex (as opposed to self love, which, lets face it, teenagers EXCEL at!)
But if you have a self confident 14 year old, or, also, if you have an attention-seeking 14 year old? Awkwardness goes out the window, and bold exploration is the name of the game.
I had sex at 14 years old. I was in love with the young man, and he was good to me. I realize that this is not always the case. I realize that most young people do not stay with the person to whom they gave their virginity, that most do not marry that person. But that does not mean there's anything wrong with youthful sexual exploration. It is, I swear to you, normal, and healthy, and necessary.
Sure, I get it, there's alot of psychological stuff that goes along with this. But if we started being realistic instead of moralistic about the sex act, maybe we could actually provide these people with some actual support, instead of the judgement and the pointed fingers and the scandalized whispers and the admonishments that they recieve in our society when they follow nature's guidance and strike out into the world of human sexuality--a thing for which they are designed!
We need to give our youth an honest, healthy view of sex and sexuality, of their bodies and their emotional selves.
Or else we get drinking and secrets and bad decisions. Mistakes and screwed up psyches and confusion and hurt.
And I want to say this, and I wish it could be heard round the world. Thank HEAVEN for proper sex education. Thank the public schools or whatever for teaching us EXACTLY how babies are made and how to use preventative measures.
Because, guess what? While I am firm in my belief that a 14 year old has a bilogical imperative, a scientific compulsion, to fuck like a rabbit? I also recognize that in the scoietal structure we've established, that we, as a people, ahve cultivated a whole species of people who would not be ready emotionally, financially, or in maturity to handle having a baby. Biologically? Hell yes, best fucking time! The teenage girl's body bounces back remarkably well from childbirth. But emotionally? No. We've cultivated and created a useless class of person, and most every one of them would be pretty awful as parents. at least to begin with. The learning curve and the growing-up and the selflessness part of it would be a pretty steep learning curve.
Ok.
I am going to be late for work.
So, thanks to my loving partner in crime (and it was quitel literally criminal alot of the time, lol) of thirteen wonderful, blissful, exhillerating, erotic, exciting, formative years. Sex is a huge part of what makes me who I am, and I have never, never even once, regretted taking those formative steps.
And I just love the festivities that go along with a sex anniversary!!
Thirteen years.
That is almost half my life. next year.
Thirteen years of experimenting, learning, growing, trusting, playing, giving, receiving, honing, trying, practicing and discovering. It has been a wildly fun and fulfilling thirteen years at play.
There is always alot of talk about girls having sex too young and jaws drop when I tell people that i was 14 when I started. Scandal! I must not have been emotionally mature! I must not have been ready! It was wayyyy too young! Holy Moley!
but human beings, especially those who've just gone through puberty, are designed to want to fuck. To play. To learn. To screw around. To hook up. They've got a biological imperative.
Sure, most 14 year olds might be emotional morons, and they might not have a whole ton of common sense either, and self-control? How can anyone really hope to have self control with all those raging hormones couring through their little systems?
It will happen. It has been happening since their were people. It will always happen. I swear, i think the only thing that keeps many teens from starting at 14 is the built-in awkwardness that comes with adolescence. They feel like idiots half the time and are UBER self-conscious. So many of them have to grow up a few years, come into themselves a little, before they muster up the courage to make a foray into partner sex (as opposed to self love, which, lets face it, teenagers EXCEL at!)
But if you have a self confident 14 year old, or, also, if you have an attention-seeking 14 year old? Awkwardness goes out the window, and bold exploration is the name of the game.
I had sex at 14 years old. I was in love with the young man, and he was good to me. I realize that this is not always the case. I realize that most young people do not stay with the person to whom they gave their virginity, that most do not marry that person. But that does not mean there's anything wrong with youthful sexual exploration. It is, I swear to you, normal, and healthy, and necessary.
Sure, I get it, there's alot of psychological stuff that goes along with this. But if we started being realistic instead of moralistic about the sex act, maybe we could actually provide these people with some actual support, instead of the judgement and the pointed fingers and the scandalized whispers and the admonishments that they recieve in our society when they follow nature's guidance and strike out into the world of human sexuality--a thing for which they are designed!
We need to give our youth an honest, healthy view of sex and sexuality, of their bodies and their emotional selves.
Or else we get drinking and secrets and bad decisions. Mistakes and screwed up psyches and confusion and hurt.
And I want to say this, and I wish it could be heard round the world. Thank HEAVEN for proper sex education. Thank the public schools or whatever for teaching us EXACTLY how babies are made and how to use preventative measures.
Because, guess what? While I am firm in my belief that a 14 year old has a bilogical imperative, a scientific compulsion, to fuck like a rabbit? I also recognize that in the scoietal structure we've established, that we, as a people, ahve cultivated a whole species of people who would not be ready emotionally, financially, or in maturity to handle having a baby. Biologically? Hell yes, best fucking time! The teenage girl's body bounces back remarkably well from childbirth. But emotionally? No. We've cultivated and created a useless class of person, and most every one of them would be pretty awful as parents. at least to begin with. The learning curve and the growing-up and the selflessness part of it would be a pretty steep learning curve.
Ok.
I am going to be late for work.
So, thanks to my loving partner in crime (and it was quitel literally criminal alot of the time, lol) of thirteen wonderful, blissful, exhillerating, erotic, exciting, formative years. Sex is a huge part of what makes me who I am, and I have never, never even once, regretted taking those formative steps.
And I just love the festivities that go along with a sex anniversary!!
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