Why does a good orgasm seem to make everything better? I mean, besides the obvious. It really shouldn't, should it? And sex, in general? Isn't this why people stay with the wrong people?
God. I have seen too many people stay with the WRONG partner for years for no good reason that I can discern. Because if you are with the WRONG person the sex is generally (generally), not great. Now yes, I am aware that you can also b e with the absolute WRONG person because of amazingly skillfull, combustible sex, but I'm talking about the more mundane, run-of-the-mill, less lifetime movie kind of relationship.
You might get sex on the kinda regular, but it seems, more importantly, that you get to say you are in a relationship. You are not alone, which, as we know from movies and tv and literature and art, is a fate worse than death. Because, I guess, then you'd have to be in charge of your own sexual satisfaction, and you make an awkward addition to an otherwise even dinner party. How awful.
But really? Is just having a warm body good enough? Is that what people should be settling for? I remember when Aaron and I were young and eager but didn't really know what we were doing in bed. I LOVED having sex, though I didn't orgasm. I loved the excitement, I loved having him inside me, I loved making him come. But was it good sex?? I guess it's relative, isn't it? At the time I thought it was just the bee's knees, you know? It was fun and intimate and I felt loved and wanted and sexy and worshiped and powerful. And sex feels good even without that release....but damn, it feels so much better with that release, right?!?!
What is the point? I never promised to be pithy here. I guess what I'm getting at is that I guess I understand, on some level, why people stick with the WRONG partner for mind-boggling lengths of time. I think it's the security. The comfort. The path-of-least-resistance. Because it is easier on so many levels, than being alone. Because we human creatures seek to couple, seek to dwell with others, seek and crave intimacy, and, it would seem, we'll sacrifice a whole hell of alot for those things.
Dignity. Dreams. Self-worth. Respect. Passion. Potential. Friends. Intellect. Common-sense. Love.
I'm going to stop. I am. I had a whole other part written, but I'mma shut this mouth of mine because I've already said more than enough. Just. Nope. No. I was gunna, but I'm not. I want to, but I won't.
Be true to yourself, be true to your heart. Listen to the true voice inside you, and not the one that's been manipulated by societal norms and cultural pressures. Don't trust the co-dependent human flesh you inhabit-- trust only the spirit. You are a soul, with deep wisdom, with natural instinct, with a destiny. Don't settle. You are too amazing, too precious, to wondrous to shy away from your true potential.
This is 2011. We really don't NEED to be with anyone. Not for anything save the right reasons.
Where's that list?
Anyway. What I wanted to say, was that I had a great orgasm last night! Lol. Woot! And it made me feel happy! Yay. I have to say, years and years of practice with this incredible partner of mine has really been paying off. He is skilled and attentive and generous and sexy as fuck.
And if you're keeping track on the 'intimacy watch', yeah, our roomate was home. Lol. Else it would have turned into alot more than one great orgasm, I have no doubt.
I've been promised a hundred in one day when the roomie moves out. Hahaha. We'll see. When we get on a roll, we get on a roll, but a hundred? I might just die happy on that blessed day.
God. I have seen too many people stay with the WRONG partner for years for no good reason that I can discern. Because if you are with the WRONG person the sex is generally (generally), not great. Now yes, I am aware that you can also b e with the absolute WRONG person because of amazingly skillfull, combustible sex, but I'm talking about the more mundane, run-of-the-mill, less lifetime movie kind of relationship.
You might get sex on the kinda regular, but it seems, more importantly, that you get to say you are in a relationship. You are not alone, which, as we know from movies and tv and literature and art, is a fate worse than death. Because, I guess, then you'd have to be in charge of your own sexual satisfaction, and you make an awkward addition to an otherwise even dinner party. How awful.
But really? Is just having a warm body good enough? Is that what people should be settling for? I remember when Aaron and I were young and eager but didn't really know what we were doing in bed. I LOVED having sex, though I didn't orgasm. I loved the excitement, I loved having him inside me, I loved making him come. But was it good sex?? I guess it's relative, isn't it? At the time I thought it was just the bee's knees, you know? It was fun and intimate and I felt loved and wanted and sexy and worshiped and powerful. And sex feels good even without that release....but damn, it feels so much better with that release, right?!?!
What is the point? I never promised to be pithy here. I guess what I'm getting at is that I guess I understand, on some level, why people stick with the WRONG partner for mind-boggling lengths of time. I think it's the security. The comfort. The path-of-least-resistance. Because it is easier on so many levels, than being alone. Because we human creatures seek to couple, seek to dwell with others, seek and crave intimacy, and, it would seem, we'll sacrifice a whole hell of alot for those things.
Dignity. Dreams. Self-worth. Respect. Passion. Potential. Friends. Intellect. Common-sense. Love.
I'm going to stop. I am. I had a whole other part written, but I'mma shut this mouth of mine because I've already said more than enough. Just. Nope. No. I was gunna, but I'm not. I want to, but I won't.
Be true to yourself, be true to your heart. Listen to the true voice inside you, and not the one that's been manipulated by societal norms and cultural pressures. Don't trust the co-dependent human flesh you inhabit-- trust only the spirit. You are a soul, with deep wisdom, with natural instinct, with a destiny. Don't settle. You are too amazing, too precious, to wondrous to shy away from your true potential.
This is 2011. We really don't NEED to be with anyone. Not for anything save the right reasons.
Where's that list?
Anyway. What I wanted to say, was that I had a great orgasm last night! Lol. Woot! And it made me feel happy! Yay. I have to say, years and years of practice with this incredible partner of mine has really been paying off. He is skilled and attentive and generous and sexy as fuck.
And if you're keeping track on the 'intimacy watch', yeah, our roomate was home. Lol. Else it would have turned into alot more than one great orgasm, I have no doubt.
I've been promised a hundred in one day when the roomie moves out. Hahaha. We'll see. When we get on a roll, we get on a roll, but a hundred? I might just die happy on that blessed day.
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3 comments:
why would anyone stay with someone that was wrong for them when being alone is so much better than being with some LAMEO. you can buy your OWN place, decorate it how YOU want, go out whenever you feel like it, and have sex with all kinds of hot black men. i mean, hot women . . . hell, i mean both!
Lol. Women and Black Men-- a favorite fantasy of mine! Can the men also have sexy scottish accents? Lolz.
sure they can. its not real life after all. :)
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